Fostering Intergenerational Friendships

However, there are alternatives for people without traditional family connections or role models. Forging meaningful bonds with others who share our interests and making cross-generational friendships can offer a renewed sense of community and joy. In fact, there are an increasing number of programs specifically designed to promote connections between generations—relationships that benefit everyone involved.

One such organization is PerfectPair.org. PerfectPair.org matches college students with older adults in a variety of settings—assisted living, memory care, and the older adults’ homes. Participants have reported improved mental health, a renewed sense of optimism, and an increased sense of purpose after participating in the program.

So even without meaningful family connections, we can still connect through the generations to find meaningful relationships around the holidays and throughout the year. Here are some other ways to connect with others during the holidays and beyond:

1. Join community groups: Look for community centers, clubs, or groups that align with your interests. These can be book clubs, hobby-based groups, spiritual communities, or volunteer organizations. The holidays often bring about special events and gatherings which can be a great opportunity to meet new people who could become mentors or friends.
2. Volunteer: Volunteering during the holidays is not only a way to give back, but also a chance to meet others in a meaningful context. Whether it’s helping out at a food bank, organizing a community event, or assisting at a senior center, these activities can put you in touch with people from different walks of life, potentially leading to lasting relationships.
3. Explore senior centers: Senior centers are hubs of activity, and many offer cross-generational programs. Many seniors possess a wealth of experience and wisdom to share and often look forward to connecting with younger generations. Participating in organized activities or just visiting to share a conversation can be mutually enriching.
4. Attend local events: Check out local event calendars for holiday concerts, public tree lightings, craft fairs, or workshops. These settings can provide a relaxed atmosphere to spark conversations and meet others who might be looking for companionship during the holidays as well.
5. Join online communities: If physical mobility or geographic location is a constraint, online communities and forums can also help build relationships. Look for online groups focused on topics you’re passionate about, from cooking and reading to photography and tech. Start with Facebook groups or even professional associations in your area of interest. Live virtual events can also facilitate a sense of participation and belonging.
6. Participate in workshops or classes: Many community colleges, libraries, and local businesses offer workshops that can be particularly festive around the holiday season—like cooking classes, DIY gift-making workshops, or even seasonal decorating sessions. These environments are natural icebreakers for meeting people and making friends.
7. Reach out for mentorship: If there’s someone in your extended circle or community whose presence you admire, consider reaching out to them for mentorship. People often appreciate genuine interest in their life experiences and knowledge, and the holidays can be a perfect excuse to invite someone out for a cup of coffee or a holiday event.
8. Find an intergenerational program near you: Generations United has a database of programs fostering meaningful connections among people of all ages.

Building new bonds during the holidays can transform the season into a period of growth and warmth. By reaching out and engaging with the community, you can forge new, meaningful relationships that may enrich not just this holiday season but many more to come.